Well I've decided to take the coward's path. I don't want to know anything. I actually feel closer to the kids than her. I think socializing would be very ackward. What she does is entirely her own business, but I'm so hung up on the fact that she can see him in this way. It's not like he moved from the area and returned after a number of years so there's a transition between feeling maternal feelings and romantic feelings. I see her in a different light now. Wrong I suppose, but that's where I am now.