One of the hardest things for me to accept was having to concede I needed help. All therapists are not equally effective. Therapy is a cooperative venture. Find one you are comfortable with -- even if you have to try several. Ask the therapist what you can expect from him or her. Ask the therapist what he or she expects from you. You have to be open and honest. If you do not think the therapy is going well, say so. A good result will be achieved only if both of you make therapy work.

Good luck.