Dear MissE - you described my feelings to a tee! Socially anxious and fearful of driving, I neglect getting out to have my hair done, and poverty does nothing to help that. This contributes to the problem. However, I concur with the Byzentine above that concentrating on the feelings of others is a helpful tactic. Whether or not you think your own smile is nice [which is probably is], most people would welcome it. Give a compliment to a stranger, when you honestly can. When you must be in social situations, ask questions of others, and they will not be looking at you, but inward at themselves, as they prattle on in delight at talking about themselves. Be sure to listen, bearing in mind that all/most of us live lives of silent desperation. Bless you, MissE ~ billieJ