Well, I don't know where to start. I'm 26, male, slim, tall, attractive (so I've been told). I had a late sexual maturation; first time I masturbated was 19, first time I had sex was 22 (with a girl).

I'm married to the only girl I've ever had sex with (never had sex with a guy). I love her alot as a person, and know that both of us would feel lost in this lonely world without the other one. We don't have sex very often, maybe once every 2-3 weeks.

I am not attracted to the naked body, whether male or female. I am only attracted to people if they wear certain clothes, especially if they get wet in their clothes (a fetish called wetlook). The clothes that I am attracted to fit into the emo/scene style, and I like them on both girls and guys. I like them cause they are tight fitting, girly, and dark. I like girly girls and girly guys who wear makeup, accessories, and have long hair. I also like to dress this way, and feel girly myself, especially when I'm horny, and I get turned on alot looking at myself. I'm definitely submissive, and this has created problems with my wife who is also submissive. We each try to be dominant from time to time, but she is actually better than I am at that. I've been accused of being girly by several people including her, especially recently, I guess since I'm very emotional and talkative.

So, am I gay or bi or what? The thing is that I'm not attracted to males or females *exactly*, but what they are wearing. As long as they are slim and moderately attractive, I'm cool with that. I think both male and female genitals are disgusting looking, but I like the submissive feeling of giving my wife oral, and fantasize about giving oral to a guy. And if I am let's just say bi, then what do I do with that? I'm fairly successful at this point in my life. I have a nice house, a car, savings, a great job; much of that tied to my wife since we share everything. Is that worth giving up for the feeling that sometimes I want to be held by and have sex with a guy? I don't think so, but I don't know, especially since I've never experimented with anyone else. And I can't experiment cause my wife has said flat out that we would be over in such a case. I don't believe anything in life is ever perfect, and I usually think that I should just stay with her cause this is as good as things will likely get. Plus, I love her in so many ways; just sexually we aren't very compatible.