Well, whatever you "are", it sounds like me too. Of course, a lot of what you describe sound like OCD symptoms, as well. I know it's comforting to have a Dx, but the diagnostic definitions overlap so much, that it's very hard to make a definite clinical picture fit one set of symptoms. Just try to deal with the symptoms and consider some therapy such as CBT or DBT, where we work on responses and attitudes and never mind the labels. Particularly in your case, since you come to see yourself in the presenting symptoms of another, as do I btw, the T might be wise not to label you, as this could turn into a self-fulfilling prophecy, and you might tend to turn you into the label. I can identify with "fuzzy sense of self" and it's probably true of many diagnoses and personality types - depression, social anxiety, people pleasing, and so forth. Just work on the thoughts and behaviors that stand in the way of your functioning, and know that you are JEXA, not BPD!!! Even people with the same dx present radically differently, and it is so easy to identify with what you google or read about some condition. I was convinced I had MS after reading that dx - convinced - every symptom fit. People just looked at me and shook their heads, wondering where my walker was. You are JEXA, with some symptoms that you will be working on, and I am ~ billieJ [whoever that fuzzy person is ] Caring About You ~