At the risk of getting too philosophical, let me say that there is actually no such thing as BPD. Or any of the other PD's. These labels were ade up by people trying to classify and pigeon-hole people in order to make things more manageable for themselves. It is so much easier to say "X has BPD, for which the treatment is ___", than to say "this person in front of me is struggling with a lot of different beliefs, feelings and behaviours, this person is unique and I will have to treat them as such."

Another thought...perhaps the desire to have someone give you a diagnosis is like saying "will someone please tell me who I really am!" For those of us whose identities are wobbly or diffuse or changeable, it can seem reassuring for someone to do this. But it doesn't really help. I have never been more terrified than in the moments when I can actually feel the extent to which I don't seem to exist. But out of those moments comes the motivation to take the time in therapy to let my real self become visible in spite of any diagnosis that may be hanging over my head. I know I am in here somewhere

Sadly, I have to agree with BillieJ when she writes "T might be wise not to label you, as this could turn into a self-fulfilling prophecy" The first time I ever heard of BPD was 25 years ago when a friend of mine went through a bad patch, as we all do. She ended up being labelled BPD, and she basically proceeded to 'become' that, whatever it meant to her. She was never the same. She gave in to the diagnosis, and my friend was lost to me.