I read an article recently about a girl in a relationship and how obsessed she was with other women. When she would go out with her b/f, she would stay focused on his eyes to see if he was looking at another woman. This caused him to feel uncomfortable every time they went out...and then some. As I was reading this article, there was so much more that described what I've been experiencing for 4 years now. My fear has gotten somewhat better throughout the years but everytime my husband mentions anything that has to do with another woman (that's not family), I flip out! In a matter of a few minutes, I begin to sweat, my heart starts beating faster and faster, I lose all concentration, all desire to keep working (if I'm at work) and all desire to interact with my family, including him and the kids. In the past, I used to make an issue about everything and anything that had to with a female, even sometimes believe my own assumptions. Now I wait until I have something concrete and a little more realistic before I make a fuss about it. I think this all started after I met my husband 5 years ago and his "girl friends" ruined my life. He had told me that he had girl friends and I didn't see anything wrong with that, that's because I did not know what it entailed. The more phone calls, emails, visits during break-ups and instant messages...the more insecure I was becoming. I was married before and was never jealous or insecure so this doesn't stem from the past. Ever since then, I panicked when it came to women. There were issues that were simply jealousy but the constant questioning and depression took over me. It subsided until now. Recently, my husband started his own business on the side which apparently is attracting more women than men and it is starting up this problem again. I feel that if he finds them attractive that it's going to change the way he does business with them. He says he doesn't care if they're woman or man, fat or skinny, pretty or ugly, young or old and I do believe him because I know why he's doing what he's doing...to make more money. I think what I'm experiencing is some kind of OCD with these thoughts and acting them out in the form of harassment and hostility toward him. I can't afford to see a therapist right now because I don't have insurance and I can't pay for it on my own so I'm seeking some kind of advise...thanks!