Aww ThanksBerries and lonegal, Good idea, i mailed him something afew mths ago, and he def appreciated it, it was just notes from the internet but he responded ok to it, only thing is this time i want to give him the dsm 4 book which is pretty heavy duty stuff, im more nervous with this one. Thanks for saying im a devoted friend, im trying very hard to show him , he can trust me and that i will always be there for him.