Or go in the complete opposite direction and have anonymous, no-strings sex so that there's nothing really riding on your performance. This might free you up. You don't have to be a slut, just sow some wild oats without the weight of romance for a change.

Maybe this would relax you and build up your sexual confidence for when you do find that special someone. A little experience before marriage is not a bad thing. Just another option -- Mike

PS -- Full disclosure: I'm probably in no position to be giving advice on this subject, I admit. I'm working on my own stuff -- . Good luck though!