heh your first sentence is insanely accurate, one anxiety triggers another, but it isn't easy to find someone willing to wait for me, i've been single two years now and haven't met anyone open minded enough, or who cared more about me than my body. i've had chances to get laid and have a great time, but of course i didn't. casual sex sucks, guys always find out about the performance issues before we ever have good sex, and none of the guys i've dealt with were willing to work with me except for my last relationship. maybe i'm paranoid but based on my history it's likely they'll give up before i ever make any progress, which just makes my problem worse because now there are people out there who might be talking about me and my issues to other people. all it takes is one person to spread the word and boom, you're the joke and the punchline. a few people already know about my problem from instances where i tried to have fun but couldn't perform and the guy went back and told an unknown number of his friends- typical guy behavior. i try to shrug it off but it still sucks, i have no idea what people are saying about me behind my back. it shouldn't matter but this is personal as hell, this could screw up my whole social life. if anyone knows where i can meet guys who can deal with this crap i'd love to know where they are, seems if they exist they're one in a million.