Hi Roxanne,

I will give you my male POV. I can relate to your husband when he would try to "fix" things or find a solution to your problems when you shared with him. Thats what we men do, we want to fix things, when sometimes all you want is someone to listen to you. If thats what you need, tell him. No one can read your mind. Does he know what love looks like to you? have you told him? do you know what love looks like to him? Do each of you know what each others emotional needs are? if not, find out. I am sure that his childhood plays a role in him being afraid of emotional intimacy. Seek a therapist or maybe a support group in your area. Marriage counseling can and does work provided you can find a good one. My marriage was in a bad place, but its getting better. Communication, honest communication is key. Good luck.