This is not love is it.

More like your husband is saying I'll keep you around for sloppy seconds if my new main course doesn't quite work out.

Or for finacial reasons in my favor because it will be worse of if we divorse.

This is stratigic manuvering, Not love .

My brother and I were joint executors for my Mothers will.

If I can fix my car myself Il do it befor taking it to a mechanic in order to save money. I ll teach myself if I can. / I started my own buisness that way.

There was very little in my mothers estate and the lawyer fee was 5,000. It was my brilliant idea to recomend we do it ourselves instead of get a lawyer.

we did.

So my brother jumped right on it. When it came time to open the deposit box my mother had importnat documents in .
there was no lawyer present . This all happend within a few days of the funeral.

The title to my brothers car that was in the box was given directly to him. I didn;t even get to see it or know WHY it was held there.

later I figured out it was Because he owed money for his house payments My mother was helping him with.

I found stocks my mother purchaced in a company my brother never had. it was an exersize in a class he was taking . he had my mother beliveing it was going to be real so she gave him front money.

and a promisory note my father made so he would pay back the 15,000 they gave him so he could buy a house.

the house I told him he should get instead of pay the very high rents they had in the Boston area.

I never saw that money and I was never helped to get a house.by my parents.

I was verbally , sexually and physically "threatened" when I asked he pay it back.

If I didn;t sign that no one owed the esteate he threatened to leave me there at the house alone.

I was coersed. and scared.

So I signed.

I halted the process two years later before the final closing check . which lasted 13 years .

I gave in .

so in hind site It would have been better to hire that lawyer .

Rather than handel things without one.

unleagal marriage separtations may not work and could be harmful to one or the other party.

especialy if a spouse threatens another with violence or coersion. due to finaces.

its not love is a war zone .


a marraige is not to imprision another financialy or to hook a man or to hook a woman for finacial benies. But often this does happen.

I hope for your sake , concidering how you feel still about him ,that you can get a legal separtion soon.

Patricia