Thanks everyone, & Salukigirl- I've found that most men don't change as they get older. I had a job where there were lots of repeat customers, & I couldn't believe how many married men hit on me b/c they were going thru mid-life crises (or just plain cheated on their wives).
I know I'm unintentionally giving out bimbo signals by being too nice, & I know that guys misinterpret my anxiety as having a crush on them (I am severely socially phobic & am anxious around everyone, not just men). So, I understand why it's happening-I guess my post was an attempt to ask others how I should go about conducting myself properly w/out coming across as cold or unfriendly. Any suggestions?