There are always events that will stop him to see you....but I'm sure if he wants, he will make it....honesty, I see all as an excuse....dead in family and depression and whatever else are happening...if these want to stop him from being your husband, then why waste more time?

I would say to move on and send him an ultimatum and tell him you want divorce and not waste your time anymore....you need lots of time to get over him and get into another relationship....

stay strong and make a right decision
take care
Marjan