I'd like to add that I am in no way insinuating that all men fit my description, & I'm sure there are some women who are like that, too. When I answered Salukigirl's reply, I meant that the guys who are like that don't seem to change with age, as she'd hoped. Obviously, if I'm the one asking for help then I'm acknowledging that I'm the one with the problem. I have no intention of this being a male-bashing thread. That said, does anyone have ADVICE for me? Thanks.