Thread: Bro's new wife
View Single Post
morning8glory
Member
 
Member Since Apr 2002
Location: nc
Posts: 30
22
Default May 23, 2002 at 06:48 PM
 
Your brother will not take your part over his wifes.
But he knows you love him.
Give him space his wifes emointal needs will come first.
It is suppose to be that way.
Keep renforcing your love with notes and cards for his Anniversary and other occasions.
I have a sister in-law who I never got to know they did not ask us to the wedding she has had fights with my other sisters and mother but I decided if she loves my brother than I love her .
I never had a chance to tell her this and my brother just thinks no one likes his wife so he guards her .
I sent her card when her mother died and my brother sent it back unopened.
When he was first married he got to talking badly about her to other family members and it got back to me and I wrote my brother a letter and told him he should not talk about his wife badly to others in the family because they gossip
.
It made him mad that I wrote that to him but I think he got it. They have a 4 year old child and have been married about 20 years he is not easy to live with so if that women can love him that is great.
The family still talk badly of her but I stay out of it and I think some day he will see that.
My other sister in-law. I was never even introduced to before they got married and again not asked to the wedding.
I loved my baby brother best of all. I adored him.
I wrote his wife and told her if she loved my brother than I love her and she has written several times when family members were very unkind to her telling me she appreciated the support from me.
My mother did not want to except her as her daughter in-law because most my brothers money was going to my mother untill he got married . My mother was extremely unkind.
I took my sister in-laws side and told my mother if he loves her than we should let that be ,because she is all he really has .

Most family's today do become separate from each other we all grow up and have full lives of our own.
I would say do not do any thing in the situation that would show you are displeased or make your brother think he has to make a choice between wife or family .
Your brother will keep remembering your love for him and he will suprise you one day.
My baby brother called me out of the blue recently just to talk it was great and he invited us to come stay at his house.
His wife likes us.
Maybe your sister in-law for some silly reason feels threatened by you and in time when she see's you love them she will grow up and be kinder.
She is not as mature in her actions as you are.
Give her time to mature.
If she never comes around you will know in your heart that you did no wrong.And that your brother will continue to have fawn memorys and night time dreams of his big sister.
M8G

morning8glory is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote