i appreciate your post in an attempt at clarifying. i didn't have an issue with your terms. i choose to call them insiders. t calls them parts. that's not an issue for me personally. still yet, i thank you for the clarification.

i also appreciate that the tone of your message is softer. as i said before, i have no doubt that you're learned. that shows. however, your prior message was laden with much personal belief. you've chosen to take documentation and coordinate it into something that "fits the best for you". that's great! a person looking for a church to best tend their beliefs would be a good comparison. the person looks at all of the churches in the area, narrows the list down to ones that better fit their personal beliefs, and then studies them further until they've found the one(s) that they want to incorporate into life. you've done something similar. your beliefs simply aren't my beliefs. it doesn't mean that either is wrong...just different. i wouldn't force mine onto you, and hope that you wouldn't do the same with me. you haven't in this post and i thank you for that. i'm glad you're to that point in your life. we all here are in the process of doing that same thing. some are farther along than others.

right now, things are happening with me in leaps and bounds...as is necessary in healing. i don't "believe" in the same way that you believe, but am achieving at a rapid pace now. with every different system will be a different way of healing.

so...now we can discuss this is a good thing.

you said:

For example an angry memory piece cannor be made under any circumstances to laugh or be happy in any way. a memory piece that is the stored memory of gagging during oral sex will gag on everything they are given to eat regardless of what has been given.

i disagree. insiders, as they begin to have outside contact with outside ppl (especially therapists) can/will learn, adapt and change. their capabilities widen and change as they begin to understand things that they're now exposed to. for instance, several insiders have come to trust t (an unheard of concept), talk (when they hadn't before), and learn that not all ppl are bad. they can change behaviors, etc. bahaviors (acting outs) have drastically changed here with awarenesses of today.

have a great evening.

kd