Thread: Fine Again....?
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Old Dec 11, 2009, 06:49 AM
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((((Mini moo))))

I hear you and understand fine. I have always said I was fine when I am screaming something else. But I have never wanted to burden anyone or bother anyone. It was always so much easier to say I am fine so not to have to listen to being in trouble or knocked down again to only feel worse, and still have no one to listen.

I do hear you. So many times even now, I say I am fine when in reality I am not. And I know that others can read right through that fine. When your face tells a different story than your words but yet the words seem to always be the same.

Why is it that we are so hard to just say what we feel? I am an adult now, and still feel the need to hide behind those four little letters when I really want someone to know the truth. Will we ever change? Or is it from a need to protect and be what was always expected.

When you grow up in a place that is not okay, and the expectation is to never tell, you adopt the "I'm Fine" and you never look back. When you live in a place where others (peer pressure) are always seeming to be fine and you want no one to know any different, you reach for the "I'm fine", and no one questions.

I do understand Mini moo. And I hear you and what you are saying. Please keep posting and sharing. I appreciated your post. Sending you gentle hugs and loving thoughts.

dps
Thanks for this!
lonegael, Mini moo