I agree with perpetuallysad.... the only thing I can add is that it's really hard to respond to the comment "you look to young to be a nurse" or "you look so fragile" (I know because I get these same comments) How do you expect her to respond? It almost immediately puts her on the defensive in a situation where she's going to try to be examining the work environment and the group identity and functioning for the first week or so. It would be impossible and quite disrespectful for her to join the community and try to change the way things work. SHe's probably trying to play the role of observer at this point so as not to stress all of you out by changing things too much. Just give her a chance. After a month if she's still no good, maybe that's worth discussing with her supervisor. But for now, trying to respect the fact that she's trying to show you all resepect is probably going to get you alot farther. Hope all this works out for all of you.