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Dec 11, 2009, 01:59 PM
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Member Since: Mar 2009
Location: 8CS / NYS / USA
Posts: 9,171
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Originally Posted by writingwithink
I'm seven weeks into this new DID T, and this has become a greater request from her during sessions, and I get so confused. I'll ask questions and her response will be to ask inside. And she doesn't just say that and, in my opionion, give me time to ask inside. She'll say, "Ask inside," and then want an answer almost immediately. Is this normal?
Also, we discussed an email that was sent to her and she asked me if I was aware of it; I was. I explained that, much to my embarassment, I watched the email being sent (it was not a pleasant note and expressed angry words toward a former T; I don't know where it came from, and I'm still shocked because that T was just golden, and I've never thought anything bad about her). After explaining this, my T told me that it means I'm co-con. Although, later in the session, we were talking about some parts that are kids and how recently another adult part has stepped out to care for them. I told her that I'm okay with that because they're not me and as long as it stays with them and not me, then I'm okay. She then asked, "Who are you?" So I got freaked out by this question and felt like, OMG, I have to come up with something. I responded, "I don't know." Just great. In reality, my only response could have been, "me." Am I supposed to be able to give a name or function or something like that if she asks, "Who are you"?
So, after session, I felt like I'm making all this stuff up again. Then later this week, my boss sends out a note to all her direct reports asking them to complete a self-evaluation form in preparation for annual reviews. So, as is the case with these types of tasks, the form has been completed, re-completed, and even trashed several times; all times with different answers. So something like this happens, and I'm back to saying, "OMG, this is true."
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Yes its normal for a therapist to ask you to ask inside and then expect the answer right away. co consciousness means you have awareness of your alters, what they are doing and thinking, what they want and need all you need to do is ask and listen closely and someone will answer you right away. the answer might not be what you expect nor want it to be but it will be an answer. on the alters that my therapist and I were able to establish co consciousness with, that therapist had me sit there with paper and pen and write her questions as she was saying then and then my write exactly what I was haring immediately after she finished the asking the question.
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