Failure is one of the most difficult things to accept. 19 years is a long time to be with someone and then just cut it off. The feelings of remorse, sadness and rejection are strong. Everyone wants to be accepted. My opinion is that many of the marriages can be saved if each one is committed to it. There are many phases of marriage, first is the lust and sexual satisfaction stage, then the family stage, kids growing up and business with carrers, rare times to be together, etc. Then comes the empty nest stage, one day it's you and your partner....now what? I think people need to find a mutual interest, remember what first attracted you to each other. Try dating each other again. My wife and I meet for dinner sometimes, or go dancing at the club in town. We sometimes act like we don't know each other. We are having a ball doing all kinds of stuff. We have grown in more ways than one but, the most important thing is we have done it together. 37 Years and still going strong.

We don't plan on giving up but, I can say it has not been easy and anything worth having is not easy

Good luck in the future,

Eric