One of the main reasons I am separated from my husband is that he always made me "the bad guy" in our marriage. After much soul searching, I realize that even though he put me in that role, I also realize that I accepted the role of bad guy. I suppose it goes along with the very large bag of guilt that I drag through life. Perhaps you are doing the same in your marriage? Worth thinking about. Oh, and by the way, you aren't the bad guy, just the one who accepts the title. blessings