I know it's off topic, and I apologize for that salukigirl, but I don't think either gender has cornered the market on being an A-hole. If these are the only type of people you're meeting then you're going to the wrong places.

Jay I think you give your sex too much credit, women have their own games.

On topic, salukigirl why would you remain in a relationship with someone that goes out of their way to upset you? I would say it is you, but not for the reasons you suggest. You're picking the wrong men.