When my husband and I were divorcing after 30 years of marriage, two kids and a myriad of memories, I asked him when he wanted to go through our photos to choose which ones he wanted. His reply was that he wanted none of them...none of us together, none of the kids growing up, none of the family get-togethers, none of our friends.

We had been best friends for so many years that I was devastated and felt as if I'd been slapped in the face. When the kids found out that not only had he not wanted any photos of them but also had not wanted any of the "presents" and little things they had made and/or given him through the years, they were crushed and hurt as well.

I don't understand why someone does something so hateful. No matter how hurt I was...or how hurt you are...we keep photos of those we care about because of the memories and good times associated with those people. If I were you I wouldn't remove your photos simply because she has removed yours. Your fond memories will always be with you and the photos you keep will be precious to you. However, once they're gone, they're gone. Her loss, not yours.

So sorry the situation has occurred and hurts as much as it does. I hate the way life bites us in the *** at times but it also envelops us in love and happiness.

Thinking of you and hoping you've begun to smile....

Melanie