ConfusionCraze: It's like what he is now saying doesn't match his actions those few times he was straight. People wonder why I'm still stuck on him and it's because I originally saw the good side of him. I don't think I can "save" or "change" the guy..I'm not one of those types of women. I wasn't playing hard to get.. Heck, other than those first 3 days I only saw him once straight since!

It sounds to me as if this guy was somewhere between stable and hypomanic when you met him and then entered a manic phase, possibly as triggered by recreational drugs.

When a person is hypomanic they can actually be a lot of fun to be with, once they become manic however they stop being quite so much fun. In part, this seems to be related to their inability to impose self-control, rather, they may become driven almost entirely by impulse. It may have been during this time that he was pressuring you most to have sex because hypersexuality can also be part of mania.

Is it the bipolar and pushing me away thing? Depressive/low part of bipolar? Any hope he'll snap out of this in a few weeks or a month and call me again and be back to himself? At first I kept calling once a week or 2 weeks, or days in between just to show I am STILL interested because I was afraid if I stopped calling, he'd never call again. But now.. I don't want to call anymore anyway since the last 3 conversations were the same and didn't make me feel good. I'm an idiot if I call again. I just feel he's still in there..somewhere.

That other side of him probably still is in there. How quickly that side returns might depend both on his treatment and his own actions. Most people find medication helps them to maintain stability however it can also leave them feeling flattened as compared with the "feel good" euphoria that hypomania and mania can offer. For that reason they may go off their medication or attempt to produce a manic cycle by going without sleep, drinking alcohol, using drugs or something else.

Some people experience very short periods of mania while others can remain in a manic state for weeks or months. Depending on the individual, they may plummet into depression next, return to a point of relative stability or possibly, begin cycling rapidly between a depressive and manic state.

As you've discovered, it can be very difficult to maintain a relationship with someone who can be swept away by such intense emotional extremes. If you feel you know the guy well enough you could try suggesting to him that he seems to be experiencing mania and you'd love to hang out with him again once he's stable. It might not hurt to encourage him to contact family members or a professional; he might need some extra help to put the brakes on or slow down the manic episode. Hospitalization may even be required for a short time.

Whether or not you should get involved? In spite of any magic that flowed between you in the course of those first few days, I'd suggest you be cautious about giving away your heart right now. Maintain a casual friendship if you can but don't close yourself down to other dating opportunities. If the guy does stabilize and wants to pick up where you left off, insist that he adhere to a form of treatment that helps keep him relatively stable, don't support or encourage his use of recreational drugs, and be cautious about the use of alcohol since it's verboten when taking some drugs used to treat bipolar disorder. Also, get to know his friends and family members so you can become a part of his support network. It's helpful to have everyone on the same page and you may also benefit from the insights and support they can offer.