(((BlueMoon)))

Anger is something I've given a lot of thought to -- as a child it was not 'ok' to express my anger, so as an adult when it came out, it seemed very scary and uncontrollable.

The first thing I always try to remind myself is that the anger is there for a reason. Anger is a protector, it is there to wake us up if we are in trouble, or to nudge us to make a change. So often, anger is put off as a 'bad' or 'negative' emotion, but if it is trying to keep us safe, how can we call it 'bad'?

Is it wrong for an abused woman to be angry at her abuser, or is that anger serving to give her the extra energy she needs to get out of a bad situation? Anger, in that scenario is a gift -- because without the anger the woman might just stay in a damaging situation.

It might be interesting to ask yourself what purpose your anger is serving?

As for grounding, a few other suggestions:

I know it sounds strange, but carry a few rocks in your pocket. Something small, any rock that you like. If you feel yourself getting too disconnected, rub the rock. Notice it is there, notice the weight of the rock.

Eat grounding foods. Think of food that is grown in the earth. Roasted sweet potatoes are some of my favorites. Red meat can also be grounding. Food that is comforting and filling is often grounding.

Take your shoes off. If it is warm enough, it feels great to walk outside without shoes and feel the earth on your feet. If not, just take them off in the house and notice how your feet connect to the floor. Place both feet firmly and flat on the floor and notice how it feels. (I find that when I'm ungrounded I will rarely stand with weight on both of my feet..often my body is standing in an unbalanced way. )

If you like plants, spend some time tending your indoor or outdoor plants. Just working with the soil can be very soothing.

HTH