Thanks Tomi , Debbie, Artist and Bebop,for your responses. I will keep what you said in mind.

I went to T yesterday and talked to him about things. He knows what the problems have been with hubby and I financially. And made a suggestion. Knowing the pressure hubby has been putting on me here of late to figure out his retirement plan and well OURs too. I am not trained in this. And furthermore, my parents never taught me about money and how to handle it. Dad basically hid his finances away from everyone. Didnt give mom any money other than grocery money. And I have been very fearful that my marraige was going to turn that way also. That is one reason why I have been so reluctant to give up or share the responsibility of paying the bills or letting hubby know what they are and such. We've been married it will be 16yrs this November. And Ihave still nothing in my name. I havent really asked for it either. Basically I have been nice and quiet about things. Just happy to be married and someone who loves me. I am starting to think I deserve more now. So back to being at T yesterday. T suggested that I talk to hubby . Tell him that I am not trained in figuring these things out nor am I comfortable in doing so. Stocks , bonds all that even the 401k. I am really dumb when it comes to this stuff! And so maybewe need to talk to a financial advisor . I did talk to hubby last night and well ... there is progress. He did agree that would be a good idea. I am somewhat relieved , and glad cause I was afraid of yet another heated argument. Keep your fingers crossed for me. We are going to talk some more about who we want to go see about this now.

I also got to talk to my pdocs nurse. I have had increasing anxiety here the past few weeks with everything that is going on. I wanted to know if it was ok for me to take my anziety medication with my other meds . Which she said it was fine. It will take a few days but I hope by maybe tonight I will be able to get a good nights sleep.

Thanks everyone for your help and thoughts. I appreciate it.

Hugz~
Bethy