This guy is trying to take advantage of someone who is in a vulnerable situation-that's a predator. I assume that you know his email address if you've known him for so long, so I suggest you do this: Send him an email stating in no uncertain terms that if he ever contacts you again in any way, you will file a restraining order. Then print out the email & save it. (Don't tell him that part.) If he ever violates that condition, you have written proof that you communicated all of this to him, & can take it to the police as evidence. Stalker laws will accept that communication to him as reason to file a restraining order in the event that he persists. Do not answer his calls & save his voice mails for evidence, & the same with emails. Do not answer the door if he tries to visit you. Call the police & throw him in jail so fast his head spins. Also, save all of the above evidence & show it to his wife. Ughh, what a creep!!!