I think maybe Salukligirl confused your reply with mine, b/c I did mention something about working on respecting myself more.
Salukigirl, I hope that you didn't take that personally- I wasn't inferring, either, that you give out signals that you don't respect yourself. I felt like I could relate to your problem, & was giving you advice based on my personal experience. You did say in the first post that this happened with several guys & not just this one boyfriend, so I thought it was a pattern. Maybe AAAAA is right & you are just picking the wrong guys. I don't know the answer; just trying to help. Best.