The triple shift is normal. He works it so he can have the rest of the week off for school. I know he's at work because I call so he can say goodnight to the kids and on the weekends before they nap. Its never the same time and I call the store phone instead of his cell phone. The majority of his "stuff" is done from his smart phone which he has locked all the time. I really do understand that he may not get all the sex he wants. But had he told me and talked to me. It wouldn't have been such a shock and hurt so much. We were listening to talk radio the other day they were talkin about this tiger woods mess , the one guy said "no matter why or how a man cheats or to what degree he's always going to cover his @$$ and say what ever he thinks will keep things normal. " sure jack off till it falls off it makes you happy but don't lie to me. He "reason" behind hiding it was he knew it would hurt me. That it would make me even more insecure. I don't even want to talk to my therapist about this I'm afraid she'll say something about me being stupid and not able to take care of my man. I know she would never do that but it doesn't stop me from thinking it.