My T also would say to just allow yourself to feel what you're feeling, even though it's painful....although it wasn't transference that we were talking about, but he feels that way in general about feelings.

Usually it comes in waves, I find....so, just getting through the wave, feeling it and trying to understand it....hard to do.

I remember feeling very anxious when I was going to go 3 weeks without seeing my T...In the beginning, I had such a hard time with it, missing him, etc. But it ended up not being nearly as bad as I expected.....the reconnecting was more difficult. Still working on that.