beth....just want you to know that i am sorry that you are going through so much....also........i have to agree with you on staying with your husband (unless of course he is abusive which doesn't seem to be the case).....i have been married for 35 years and the one thing my husband and i always agreed on is no matter what is going on between us we would stay together and tough it out...neither one would ever leave the house....it has worked well for us....best of luck..julia