Your T isn't going to tell you you're stupid or that you can't take care of your man. If she did, then she wouldn't be a good T & you should find someone more qualified. She will be proud of you for talking about it & seeking help. (Not that you're the one who is doing anything wrong.) You need to bring up this issue to her b/c it's upsetting you so much that you considered going into the hospital & SI. It also has the potential to terminate your engagement, & there are children involved who could get hurt by this, too. It's hard for anyone on this site who doesn't know everything that's going on to give sound advice; you're lucky to have a T to discuss this with. I wish you the best.