(((((Lily))))) I wish there were an answer! It's not a silly question at all. It's one I've struggled with in many years of therapy. I've found that I do have some control over my thoughts, and therefore, my feelings. If I start thinking about how much I miss my T, I can feel very bad. Sometimes reading over my journals or papers where I have her words in front of me, helps. Or replaying some of my sessions in my mind-the connected, good ones, of course.

On the other hand, what works best is to get involved in something else, something I feel passionate about, or anything distracting myself from thinking about my T. That's what my T herself suggested that I do when I can't stop thinking about her, or when I can't function after a session. It's not easy, but getting involved in something else usually helps a lot. That doesn't mean I stop missing my T. It just makes the feelings manageable.