Tryin...
I am a bit concerned that you say you have been married for 16 years, and yet nothing is in your name. That doesn't sound good to me. I was married in a similar situation for 20 years, and upon divorce, which I allowed him to write without lawyer (being so intimidated by him), I let him keep all his investments and retirement. Now, in retrospect, I should have been tougher, smarter.
Don't be a pushover regarding finances, Tryin.
Seeker