Thanks spirtual_emergency(and everyone else)
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Originally Posted by spiritual_emergency
It sounds to me as if this guy was somewhere between stable and hypomanic when you met him and then entered a manic phase, possibly as triggered by recreational drugs.
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Stable sounds right. I was thinking "straight" or detoxed from drugs..but then with withdraw/detoxing he would've been irritable or depressed and he wasn't really that either so I'd go with stable. He wasn't all crazy fun when we met..just willing to do whatever. I'm impulsive and spontaneous..was my idea to go to the casino which is at least an hour away. I guess my personality traits fitted well with his hypomania? lol
I'd guess the 'hypomania' started when he came back from the bank with a few hundred dollars that was to be used for pot and some things he actually needed. He was telling me about something that pissed him off and he was talking so fast and all over the place that I couldn't even follow the story. I thought he was just understandably mad about it and why he went and smoked after that..but probably just having the money started it so he can finally get high again.
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That other side of him probably still is in there. How quickly that side returns might depend both on his treatment and his own actions. Most people find medication helps them to maintain stability however it can also leave them feeling flattened as compared with the "feel good" euphoria that hypomania and mania can offer. For that reason they may go off their medication or attempt to produce a manic cycle by going without sleep, drinking alcohol, using drugs or something else.
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I know SSDI makes him see a psych but I know they also can't make anyone take medication. Do psychs mention drjeckle/mr hyde personality cause he actually used those words. I don't think he's on meds. Doesn't really seem like the medication kinda guy anyway. Plus I guess they wouldn't work anyway since he's smoking and drinking at least a few times a week. I don't even understand how he gets away with it..with SSDI, record of being bipolar, police records of drug possession ..you'd think he'd have to do drug tests or something but apparently not.
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In spite of any magic that flowed between you in the course of those first few days, I'd suggest you be cautious about giving away your heart right now. Maintain a casual friendship if you can but don't close yourself down to other dating opportunities.
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That's what I was trying to do but I think it pushed him away more. He's been stuck on this sex thing for a month. I coudln't even be comfortable with it unless he was back to being the guy I met again. Plus, as easily as he tried going for it.. I can't help but wonder how many others he's slept with that easily. Not like he carries condoms on him..so apparently not much concern for STDS or pregnancy once he gets going unless he planned on doing the lame pull out method which most people know doesn't always work. Also, would I have to worry about getting raped or him going so hard it hurts? If the tension has built up that much inside him that he keeps stressing he's "waited weeks", would I regret it if I did? Not the impression I got the first night he tried but now um not so sure. Maybe I'd have to see the normal guy again and be comfortable again for a while to decide.
