ConfusionCraze: I'd guess the 'hypomania' started when he came back from the bank with a few hundred dollars that was to be used for pot and some things he actually needed. He was telling me about something that pissed him off and he was talking so fast and all over the place that I couldn't even follow the story. I thought he was just understandably mad about it and why he went and smoked after that..but probably just having the money started it so he can finally get high again.

The behaviors and activities you describe are consistent with those experienced by others in a manic episode. One thing you'll have to put some thought into is that you seem to have really enjoyed doing those things with this guy but those are the sort of activities he probably shouldn't engage in. Would you still want to be with him if he couldn't go to casinos or bars, stay up until the wee hours of the morning, or use pot or alcohol? Altnernatively, could you cope with the guilt of doing those things with him knowing they were contributing to a manic episode and the damage that frequently entails?

Do psychs mention drjeckle/mr hyde personality cause he actually used those words.

Not as far as I know although I thought it was a very good example. I was concerned about using those words myself because I worried some people might be offended by the reference. The concept of "shadow possession" also strikes me as apt and possibly, less offensive to some, but most people probably aren't as familiar with that term. In terms of my child, I'm hopeful that if they can bring aspects of their personal shadow into ego consciousness and work to assimilate them, this will "drain the pool" so there's less shadow material to draw on during a manic episode. That's a long-term approach and I have no idea if it will prove to be helpful to them or not.

I don't think he's on meds. Doesn't really seem like the medication kinda guy anyway. Plus I guess they wouldn't work anyway since he's smoking and drinking at least a few times a week. I don't even understand how he gets away with it..with SSDI, record of being bipolar, police records of drug possession ..you'd think he'd have to do drug tests or something but apparently not.

The medication issue can become quite complex as can the legalities surrounding it. Laws vary by geographical region but usually, people can only be involuntarily hospitalized or forced to take medication if it can be demonstrated they present as a harm to themselves or another. People seem more likely to be hospitalized when they're in a depressive state (and thus, may consider suicide) as opposed to a manic state but that's just my observations.

He's been stuck on this sex thing for a month. I coudln't even be comfortable with it unless he was back to being the guy I met again. Plus, as easily as he tried going for it.. I can't help but wonder how many others he's slept with that easily.

Portions of mania include making risky decisions, exercising poor judgement or lacking the ability to rein in impulses -- for some people that may translate into promiscuous or risky sexual behavior. If you did make the decision to have a sexual relationship with this fellow, you can bring your own condoms as a just in case measure.

Meantime, do be assured that many people with bipolar disorder live relatively stable lives and many of them are exceedingly nice people. It's possible this guy is one of them but he would likely need to commit to some form of treatment and lifestyle changes that can help him maintain that stability before he's capable of being in a committed relationship. It's also possible he'll call you a few weeks or months from now from a position of stability and suggest a coffee. However, if he's not willing to actively pursue a form of treatment that produces tangible results, I'd suggest you keep the memory of the few good times you shared as just that -- a memory and nothing more.