hi tmac .....i'm sorry for your losses. i lost my brother jan 2nd..and i feel like im only beginning to grieve. i spent alot of time emeshed in drama with my sisterinlaw. i went to a grief group and the leader talked about complicated grief..which was what my mothers death was for me...because she was an abuser. i feel for you and just want you to know...youre not alone. there is no time limit on grief and you don't have to grieve any other way than you do..theres no rules........take care....................kasva