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Originally Posted by BlueMoon6
Maybe she meant well, but something about your relationship with her that felt invalidating? Even if she was a good mother and tried hard, maybe you experienced her differently than that?
Or am I projecting my mother feelings onto you?  |
You know, I don't know. I'm sure she never deliberately tried to...what, I don't know? Hurt me? I just don't believe she did...It is SO HARD when you don't remember. When all you have is what you hear from your mom. When all she does is want to be closer to you, and you rebuff it.
Another part that must have been hard is that my mom came out as a lesbian when I was 23, and divorced my dad (on Thanksgiving!). That was hard. So all my childhood, she was "going through hell" as she put it, because she didn't know who she was. I can't be mad about something like that.