I don't sincerely understand how you could love someone and not love like a whole, with all his/her world that make that person happy. I was never been able to understand the "fan" phenomenon; how could you think that your love entitle you to interfere in someone else's life just because you love that person. Don't you think that you can make a friend less happy through your actions?
Think that love has to be/give freedom or what you feel is not love. And freedom doesn't mean to do not care; but to care enough to accept that the other one could be happy without you being his/her lover. If you can't accept the gift of a friendship because you are confused then step back till you'll be able to see ... that you can't be happy forcing someone to be less than you probably admire now.
BTW, I love a lot of people that I have never met :-)