We just concentrate on getting the kids a few things, one thing they really have asked for and a few smaller, craft oriented tyes of things, clothes, book, that they would need for the next year. It has always been this way, so the expectations are pretty laid back. (we went through many years of having to pinch pennys). We bake lots of cookies together. We invite over lonely acquaintance from church. We try to enjoy each other.
With an autistic son, we can't go over the top or he can't take the stimulus. He loves the holiday, but too much razzle dazzle and he doesn't feel too good.

I agree with LynnP. about the commercialization. I feel physically sick being out and shopping this time of the year. When I get home I am exhaustd and depressed just from all the over stimulation. I love the way the streets are decorated, love the feel of snow in the air and all that, love window shopping, but the intense stress and push and general unpleasantlness from people is just too much. Huggs all. Just my ten cents.