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Originally Posted by pegasus
Yes it is upsetting when any member leaves especially when we have known them a long time.
I'd like to think that the ones that leave run off happily into the sunset, singing as they go but that isn't realistic.
It is even more upsetting when you know the member may have made an unwise decision or has left because they felt they had to. When infact that might not have been the case.
In my opinion, if you are triggered and thinking of leaving, wait, give it time, don't close your account.
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i dont know how i missed this thread, i am sorry
as with pegasus lots of members do come and go some make an inpact other members lives, some sit in the shadows but still getting suport from being at pc, i too am a member that needed lots of input when i first joined but know its not so often but sometmes something crops up and its nice to be able to reach out and just hear some friendly replys, i dont read so much now so many new members so much to read and i still find it hard to read stuff without some triggers but on my good days i liked to play in games, and stuff
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Originally Posted by pegasus
As I said before, I have been here a long time and I get to know people very well. One particular longtime member that recently left felt that she had no choice but to leave. I am in contact with that person and she has been crying nonstop over it. I knew it was the wrong decision that she had made and my judgement on this has been correct.
I also don't believe that trying to change someones mind is a bad thing when I knew the person well. If the said member had stayed I'm sure things could have been worked out.
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sometimes our pleas are not heard and hopefully in time these members will say i wasnt ready to up and leave and return, but untill then i wont forget anyone who made an inpact on me,
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Originally Posted by therealme
i think i can safely say muffy is reading and knows we care...
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yes i know that a lot of ppl still read when they are not members anymore
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Originally Posted by pegasus
I have been here a while now and yes I have seen people come and go. Some grow and are ready to move on and that is nice to see. That they got something from PC and grew their own wings. That makes my heart glow to know that we helped them in some small way and know that they will always carry a piece of us with them as they move on with their journey in life.
It hurts though when you see a member go and you know that they are not ready to leave. That they have burnt the bridge that was needed to help them in life. I'm one of those that will always need the bridge, I'll always need support so I'll never leave PC, it's too important to me. For my emotional health I need this place and I need to be needed also.
My heart aches for all those members that weren't ready to leave but did any way.
Thank you for listening.
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thank you for starting this topic
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