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Originally Posted by Psyched
Thanks everyone, & Salukigirl- I've found that most men don't change as they get older. I had a job where there were lots of repeat customers, & I couldn't believe how many married men hit on me b/c they were going thru mid-life crises (or just plain cheated on their wives).
I know I'm unintentionally giving out bimbo signals by being too nice, & I know that guys misinterpret my anxiety as having a crush on them (I am severely socially phobic & am anxious around everyone, not just men). So, I understand why it's happening-I guess my post was an attempt to ask others how I should go about conducting myself properly w/out coming across as cold or unfriendly. Any suggestions?
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I'm a little confused, I'm not sure if you are working now and are having to please a boss with a particular demeanor around customers or are simply trying to get a handle on this issue for future reference.
The very first thing that came to my mind is this: the women who are the absolute best at this subject are cocktail waitresses. It always gives me a kick to occasionally see a TV show (I hardly every watch TV anymore) where a cocktail waitress has a snappy comeback for a grabby, drunk customer and it stops them flat. Also, here's another suggestion. More and more women are in influential positions in the business world. There has to be books available at the books stores, online or at the library on this very subject that would be fascinating reading. Maintaining casual relationships with men. Something to that effect. Or even those dealing with social phobia.
You'll have to forgive me because I do a lot of reading and do get a lot of good out of books. Perhaps this might help you too. Good luck.
