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Originally Posted by dontknowwhattodo198
My girlfriend is suffering from this illness and is not getting any help whatsoever, due to not having health insurance. She has been very distant towards me lately and never wants me around. I want to help her, but at the same time it makes me feel like I'm such a piece of garbage. I have no idea how to go about this situation anymore. I know I can't completely take off on her because she needs people right now, but I feel as if she is pushing me away on purpose most of the time.
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Hello Dontknowwhattodo,
Please believe me, I have been treated for depression and bipolar depression for 34 years. She does not want you to go away. Not in her deepest heart. It's the illness.
Is there a community mental health center nearby? She should be able to get help on a sliding scale and/or qualify for state aid. I know you feel helpless but PLEASE, PLEASE try very hard to not take on any guilt or blame yourself. Yes, she does need people but her emotional state won't let her deal with them. She's not doing it on purpose.
Wanting very badly to help a depressed person is one of the most helpless feelings a person can experience. Don't blame yourself and be easy on yourself. The best thing you can do is try to go about your life as best as you can, take good care of your daily needs and nutrition, and kind of keep an eye on her to make sure she stays safe.
You can always take her to an ER if she begins to talk about hurting herself. (Sometimes that can be part of iit, the talking about it.) I would strongly suggest that you try to seek out community services that are available to her even though she had no insurance. There are plenty out there. Good luck.
