maybe the harmful one DOES need some attention - some care, someone to talk to, some therapy. And yet, rarely is anywhere safe for anyone to talk about hurtful ideas (esp when that one is the one that harms the body). I don't feel the alter (or I) can even have this convo with T without her deciding I need to be hospitalized. I know T worries that the convo may (and i suppose often) lead(s) to destructive behaviors and that i'll get totally destablized and not able to stop the hurtful one.