Hi.
Sorry you're going through such a tough time. Just thought I'd let you know about Rescue Remedy. I get anxiety attacks and I take this, a couple of sprays and I feel like I can cope, although I don't think it would help long term. The are alot of anti anxiety/antidepressant herbal meds on the market, but as Lonegael said, its really a case of trial and error.
Good luck and hang in there.