Oh god. I'm literally feeling this at this very moment. It's almost shocking to be reading this thread. Call her and talk to her about it. I just had a 45 minute conversation with my old T about boundaries and ethics in therapy. I haven't really processed it yet so I don't have a lot of insight, but I know that a part of me feels better and that little pieces of me are letting go more and more every time I allow myself to process the relationship we had. You're never going to be able to fully let go - but you don't have to. It's ok to carry parts of her with you. My old T said that she has mentors she still thinks about from time to time with fondness but she doesn't keep in touch with them anymore because their function in her life doesn't really exist anymore. I think for you and me alike, it is so hard to let go because the relationship didn't have a natural end so it has a feeling of being passed off. Your old T still cares. What I learned tonight is that I have to give my new T a chance to care for me too - even if it's in a slightly different way.