My sister does not share her opinion with us. We only see her when my son is there, so we can't really talk about it. As for phone calls- Ever since I first had to go in the hospital I have tried to speak to him on the phone (with my tx providers blessing) My sister has NOT ONCE let me speak to him- in over 3 years!! As far as the transfer goes- My husband and I will fight until it happens! We have spoken to numerous people about this, the initial separation was fairly abrupt, but my husband saw him every other day or so the whole time, so there wasn't a severing from him. The people I talked to say to move him quickly- 30 days for full transfer. Visits will happen, but they will be very limited (much like my sister made happen ). As I am sure that she loves him dearly- GOD gave him to me, she never had children of her own, she can't just take mine and not expect a fight. We would have resolved this quicker, but thought we needed a lawyer(that we couldn't afford). When we first realized that the word 'temporary' was left out of what we signed, we tried to appeal- but it was over 30 days so we couldn't. We paid a lawyer much$$ to try to get it turned around- the judge (who stated @ the first hearing that he didn't deal with custody issues or know about mental illness) said "your family- work it out". It took us another year to get another hearing with a new judge! The court system is what is moving so slowly- we petitioned in Feb '09 for a GAL, the hearing was May! She was given 60 days, filed for more time- which was granted 30 days after she was to be done to start with. When granted more time no 'due date' was stated- it has been now more than 120 days (2X the time originally stated). She hasn't even contacted our character refs or tx providers!! I have left many phone messages clearly stating my concern over the time line- the more he stays there the harder it will be to transition back! I do plan on going ahead with the petition after the first of the year, my sister won't answer the phone when I call, I believe that DAILY contact needs to happen asap!

Thanks so much for everyone's input!