There are some pepole in social services that i have met who, for what ever reason, thrive off of the tiny bit of power they feel they have over people's lives. Sadly, many of them aren't really there because they have ever really burned for that type of work. Sure, some people do try to scamm them, but by and large it's just that many burocrats can't handle being burned (yep, been there myself on the soc. side) and try to regain their self respect by trying to make others crawl. Not OK. Great that your hubby is going with you! Huggs. Just be yourself like BNlsMOM says. Most of the time if you are just calm and don't let yourself get baited, it works out. Really.