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Old Dec 16, 2009, 05:39 PM
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Skip xmas. That's what my husband and I do pretty much. We don't have any decorations or family visits, etc. We go out to eat, go out to the movies, stock up on special food we like/make a nice dinner on the holiday. Also go for walks with our dogs, go for car rides, watch special TV programs, whatever.

Your father seems to be a big trigger for you. Try to ignore him as much as possible. Don't expect ANYTHING from him. Take care of yourself, live in the present, do what makes you feel better. It sounds like you are in a toxic relationship with your father. The more distance, physically and/or emotionally you can put between the two of you, the better you will feel.
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I'd rather have a visit, note or pretty picture
than an "I'll say a prayer" or a "god bless you."
Doesn't make me feel better, no meaning to me for sure.
Can't stop you from praying and blessing me,
and if that makes you feel better feel free.
But keep it to yourself please, don't tell me.
And let's all respect each other's feelings.
With kindness, support and "sweet dreamings."
Thanks for this!
lynn P., Naturefreak, stefano